Personal Bill of Rights
- I have a right to all those good times that I have
longed for all these years and didnt get.
- I have a right to joy in this life, right here, right
now — not just a momentary rush of euphoria but something more
- I have a right to relax and have fun in a nonalcoholic and
- I have a right to actively pursue people, places, and situations
that will help me in achieving a good life.
- I have the right to say no whenever I feel something is
not safe or I am not ready.
- I have a right to not participate in either the active
or passive crazy-making behavior of parents, of siblings,
and of others.
- I have a right to take calculated risks and to experiment
with new strategies.
- I have a right to change my tune, my strategy, and
my funny equations.
- I have a right to mess up; to make mistakes, to blow
it, to disappoint myself, and to fall short of the mark.
- I have a right to leave the company of people who deliberately
or inadvertently put me down, lay a guilt trip on me, manipulate or
humiliate me, including my alcoholic parent, my nonalcoholic parent,
or any other member of my family.
- I have a right to put an end to conversations with people
who make me feel put down and humiliated.
- I have a right to all my feelings.
- I have a right to trust my feelings, my judgment, my hunches,
- I have a right to develop myself as a whole person emotionally,
spiritually, mentally, physically, and psychologically.
- I have a right to express all my feelings in a nondestructive
way and at a safe time and place.
- I have a right to as much time as I need to experiment
with this new information and these new ideas and to initiate changes
in my life.
- I have a right to sort out the bill of goods my parents
sold me — to take the acceptable and dump the unacceptable.
- I have a right to a mentally healthy, sane way of existence,
though it will deviate in part, or all, from my parents' prescribed
philosophy of life.
- I have a right to carve out my place in this world.
- I have a right to follow any of the above rights, to live
my life the way I want to, and not wait until my alcoholic parent gets
well, gets happy, seeks help, or admits there is a problem.
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